Fear in dating
Preparing to teach my class that day, I stumbled across these words at the beginning of Doctrine and Covenants 67: Behold and hearken, O ye elders of my church, who have assembled yourselves together, whose prayers I have heard, and whose hearts I know, and whose desires have come up before me.As a thirty-year-old elder, I had the desire and had been praying for a long time that I might find a spouse and begin an eternal companionship. The Lord continued: Behold and lo, mine eyes are upon you, and the heavens and the earth are in mine hands, and the riches of eternity are mine to give.
Finally, one Sunday I was at church here on campus when I made up my mind: I would pursue the relationship. I left a message for her to call me when she returned, which, incidentally, is ideal for someone gripped by dating paralysis. In December 1830, the month before this marvelous revelation was received, the Lord instructed Church members in New York, “A commandment I give unto the church, that it is expedient in me that they should assemble together at the Ohio.” Fear of the unknown must have gripped their hearts.Understandably, when the members gathered for a Church conference in Fayette, New York, in early January 1831, they were concerned about the implications of this command.Describing the occasion, Church historian John Whitmer recorded, “The solemnities of eternity rested on the congregation, and having previously received a revelation to go to Ohio, they desired to know somewhat more concerning this matter.” Answering their question as to why they were to move to Ohio, the Lord began: Thus saith the Lord your God, even Jesus Christ, the Great I AM, Alpha and Omega, the beginning and the end, the same which looked upon the wide expanse of eternity, and all the seraphic hosts of heaven, before the world was made; The same which knoweth all things, for all things are present before mine eyes. ” In essence, the Lord’s response, like mine, is, “Because I know best.” However, in this and all other cases He really does know best.The last thing a young man really wants to do is talk. What would they do about their homes, their loved ones, or their professions?What would the future hold for them as they moved into the unknown?
The week before Thanksgiving I invited her to come home with me to southern Utah for the holiday weekend. I started to think of ways that I could uninvite Janice.