Dating a divorced woman with kids Phonechatnumbers
Scenario 1: Crisis If the issue is a crisis that requires a response, I will apologize, explain the situation briefly, and respond with a text or phone call.
From that point on, please treat it as an unexpected emergency. But if you’re avoiding the confrontation because “his kids need him all the time,” that might be the issue right there.
The issue is my management of my relationship with my kids and my ex-wife her. With a divorced mom as a date, I know that she will understand when the kids trump our plans.
However, with a date who is not a divorced mom, the same rule applies.
The real answer is: As a single parent I have responsibilities to my kids that will trump all plans 100% of the time.
Certainly things change as dating evolves into a relationship, but let’s take the first date as our benchmark for good behavior, especially on the divorced dad’s side of the dinner table.
___A woman who goes by the name “Lucky” responded to one of my Single Dad Wants posts with a moving and impassioned comment that’s too long to reprint here (scroll down for it). Your man, your divorced dad, is lucky to have someone so understanding.
As I was writing my response, I realized I was writing my next post about relationships. And while I only have limited experience with being on the dad’s side, I do have a little knowledge of what you speak.
Married couples face the same challenge, and the balance between these two desires of mine is more about respect and courtesy than it is about being divorced or not.♦◊♦As a divorced dad I am just now entering in a new dating relationship with a woman who does not have kids. We have already had moments of “oh shit, your kids are there, I’m sorry …” and “don’t worry about the kids, they are in their rooms studying.” If I try to imagine her point of view I’d be projecting, so I’ll stick with mine.
As a divorced dad I do understand that my kids are a priority. But kids can be used as an unhealthy defense mechanism as well.
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