Advice for dating a frenchman
After a year of living in France, my standards have plummeted to the point where I am shocked if a man offers to buy me a drink or gives up his seat in the metro for me. I have two Latin American girlfriends currently in relationships with French men.
Both claim that they have to regularly conduct little Hygiene 101 pep talks with their significant others, in which they explain that showing is a I stopped there.
Like men of any nationality, these guys come with their quirks and perks and downfalls.
In the case of French men, these qualities are simply more pungent, just like their cheese and their truffles and their armpits.
You will know when a French girl is flirting with you: she’ll smile to excess, move her hair a lot, smile at you, blush, laugh hard and loud at your jokes, find occasions to touch your shoulder (or even your knee… and it’s not unlikely that she’ll make the first move. Again, the game is often more important than the catch, even to men. The woman has all the power when it comes to dating. It’s then up to the guy if the company of “la belle” is enough for him, or if the game has lasted long enough – in which case no-one is forcing him to continue to invite her.
She decides whether she wants the guy or not, and may need more than one dinner to make up her mind… In any case, there is no obligation nor expectation whatsoever for the woman to do whatever after any number of “rendez-vous galants”.
One of the very obvious difference is the dating game. But I was not aware that accepting to go out to dinner with a man alone gave the signal that I was possibly romantically interested in him.True, they may find the latter vulgaire, but at least they are aware of events outside of the realms of their own little universe.sport – what else do you think they are doing in those brasseries while sucking on their cigs?A cute floppy-haired French boy was looking at me with big blue eyes and I could not continue scarring him with my jaded judgments.After all, I moved to this country – clearly, there must be something I enjoy.
The game is the main point, it’s relatively innocent and usually no-one gets hurt, just a little blushed :-) With kissing hi and goodbye being the standard and French women being more “flirtatious”, it can be difficult for foreigners to correctly read a French woman’s body language.